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Small Talk Basics – How to Make Smalltalk:

ByTahric Finn

Mastering Greetings and Small Talk: Essential English Conversation Skills

Welcome to the kitchen! My name is Tahric Finn, and today, we’re going to explore some useful greetings and conversation strategies you can use when you first meet someone. Whether you’re at a coffee shop, an event, or simply bump into a new neighbor, these phrases and tips will help you make a great impression and keep the conversation going.

Below, we’ll look at different stages of meeting someone: greeting and introduction, small talk, showing interest, continuing the conversation, and ending it politely.

1. Greetings and Introductions

When you first meet someone, a friendly greeting sets the tone:

  • “Hi, my name is [your name], what’s yours?”
  • “Hi, what’s your name?”

After exchanging names, it’s polite to say, “Nice to meet you!” You can follow up with questions like:

  • “Where are you from?”
    This can refer to their city, neighborhood, or country. It’s also a great way to start a conversation, especially in multicultural places.
  • “How’s it going?”
    This is less formal than “How are you doing?” and a good choice when you first meet someone.

Note: When someone asks, “How’s it going?” keep your answer positive and simple, e.g., “It’s going well” or “It’s going great.”

A man and a woman talking in the office kitchen

2. Great Questions to Start a Conversation

Depending on where you are, here are some good questions:

  • “What brings you here today?”
    This is a polite way of asking why someone is at the event or location.
  • “How do you know [person’s name]?”
    If you’ve been introduced by a mutual friend, this helps create more topics to talk about.
  • “Are you new to the area?”
    Be aware that this is a closed question and can be answered with just “yes” or “no.” Be prepared with follow-up questions.

3. Talking about Work and Experience

A very common way to continue the conversation is:

  • “What do you do for work?”

Most people are comfortable sharing, but if someone seems uncomfortable, feel free to change the topic quickly.

  • “Have you been here before?”
    Another handy (but closed) question at events or public places. Follow up with something like, “Is it usually like this?” or “What do you like about this place?”

4. Small Talk Topics

“Small talk” means light conversation that isn’t too personal. Here are some effective small talk questions:

  • “What do you like to do in your free time?”
    • Listen to their answer so you can ask more about it: “How often do you do that?” or “What do you enjoy most about it?”
  • “Have you seen any good movies lately?” or “What kind of movies do you like?”
  • “Do you follow any sports?”
    If you like the same sport, this can be a great topic to connect on.
  • “What kind of music do you like?”
    Follow up with questions about favorite artists or genres.
  • Talking about the weather:
    This is especially common in places where the weather changes a lot. Try, “What do you think of this weather?” or “It’s so hot today, isn’t it?”
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5. Showing Interest and Continuing the Conversation

To show you’re interested, ask questions based on what the other person tells you:

  • React and ask for more:
    • “Archery? Really? That’s interesting. Tell me more about that.”
    • “You collect Pokémon cards? How long have you been doing that?”
  • Ask about motivation:
    • “What made you interested in [activity]?”
  • Ask about frequency:
    • “How often do you do it?”
  • Get details:
    • “What do you like most about it?”

When the weekend is coming, another good conversation starter is:

  • “Do you have any plans for the weekend?”

6. Ending the Conversation Politely

When it’s time to say goodbye, do it politely:

  • “It was really nice to meet you.”
  • If you want to keep in touch: “It was really nice to meet you. Let’s stay in touch.”
    This is the best time to exchange contact information.

Tip: Ending with a polite phrase like this leaves a good impression and shows you enjoyed the conversation more than simply saying “Okay, bye.”

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7. Final Thoughts

These questions and phrases are perfect for starting conversations and making connections with new people. They’re not too personal, so they’re great when you don’t know someone very well. As you get to know the person more, you can ask deeper questions and build a stronger relationship.

Remember:

  • Listen carefully to what the other person says.
  • Ask follow-up questions.
  • Keep it friendly and positive.

If you have any questions or want more conversation tips, let me know! Happy chatting!

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